Saturday, July 9, 2016

The Waiting Game

I hate waiting. My anxiety starts to build when I have to wait, and if whatever I'm waiting for does not happen soon, I become a quivering, timid, mess.

For those who are like me, or for those who just hate waiting, here are some tips and tricks that will help the time roll on by.

Tip 1: Change the Thought Train 

Okay, I know, it's hard to put a stop to thoughts once they start up, but the best thing to do with anticipatory anxiety is to put a stop to the thoughts causing that anxiety.

Picture a stop sign. A physical barrier. This barrier is meant to stop the rush of thoughts that eat up energy. After picturing the barrier, think about ways to change the thoughts that are causing anxiety. Go from "I don't know what's going to happen" to "I have a plan. I know what I'm doing."

Tip 2: Accept the Anxiety 

Anxieties.com goes into detail about anticipatory anxiety, citing that thoughts get carried away and go crazy. They explain that a way to fight anxiety is to accept it. Change from "I must stay on guard" to "I won't guard myself against anxiety."

Tip 3: Take Stock 

Healthyplace.com created a short list of things to ask when anxiety starts to cause trouble.
What can you sense, right now?
Are the waters really that rough, or are you more afraid of what lies beneath?
Are your thoughts fast or slow?
How’s that breathing thing?
This list of questions keep you grounded in reality so you don;t get swept away into the abyss of anxiety.

There are a lot more things to do physically that can help when waiting. Take a walk, listen to music, talk to someone, read a book, etc. Anything you do productively will be beneficial when waiting.